If you’re someone who desires control, my heart goes out to you; control is an illusion. We cannot control anything other than our own behavior. That’s true whether we’re trying to control situations or others’ behavior. Situations We can’t control … Continued
If you’d like to enjoy greater influence, train your mind to think counterintuitively…to see things that others don’t see. We enjoy the company of those who are likeminded. Why wouldn’t we? They affirm our beliefs. But what if they’re as … Continued
The desire to control is evidence of a paucity of confidence…confidence in one’s ability to achieve what’s desired. Control is an illusion Confident people know that control is an illusion. They are readily aware that they can’t control: Other people’s … Continued
What does confidence have to do with simplicity and influence? To answer that question let’s take each element in reverse order. Influence In order to gain influence, we must earn the trust of those with whom we are interacting. Trust … Continued
When people, particularly those in large corporations, feel the need for authority it makes me wonder how confident they are. Authority My typical response when someone says they don’t have authority is to remind them that as a consultant/coach I … Continued
How often have we heard the President of the United States described as the “most powerful leader in the free world?” That language conjures up an image of someone who can do what he wants, when he wants. You and … Continued
I was having breakfast with my good friend Barry Gleeson when the topic of trust came up. I mentioned that, for some reason, people tend to trust me quickly. His response? “Because you don’t judge other people.” Judgment and Trust … Continued
After last week’s counterintuitive thinking program, attended by both Parkway’s Spark! and Wentzville’s Ignite students, one of the Spark! students thanked me and said “Your message is so positive. With all of the challenges of creating a business it’s great … Continued