When we cross the line from desire to obsession life becomes dangerous. The question is “How do we know when we’re about to cross the line?” Before we attempt to answer that question, allow me to share some background on … Continued
It never ceases to amaze me how often people confuse confidence and desire. Here’s a typical exchange with people who blame a lack of confidence for hesitating in the pursuit of a dream. “I don’t think I can do it.” … Continued
The nature versus nurture discussion has been debated for quite some time with no clear answer to the question of which is more determinative of human behavior. The good news is… it doesn’t matter with regard to changeability. Nature It’s … Continued
At the beginning of an episode of America’s Got Talent (opens in a new link), Simon Cowell (opens in a new link) said that two things are needed for success: confidence and talent. I found two things intriguing in that … Continued
“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” is an old adage with which we’re all familiar. As with most adages, there’s an element of truth in it. There are also aspects that make the adage seem easier to … Continued
Change is messy and always comes at a cost, but desire and confidence can make dealing with the mess and the cost easier. Messy Change is messy; it’s disruptive. We’re thrown off balance by attractive ideas for change. We suffer … Continued
When the desire for something elevates to need what does it do to our confidence? Desire As I’ve discussed in earlier posts, desire is an essential element of happiness. Together desire and contentment enable us to live joyfully. Contentment is … Continued
On the surface the answer seems obvious, the thing that typically keeps us from acting is a lack of confidence. When we’re not sure what we’re considering will work, our natural human tendency is to wait until we feel more … Continued