A very nervous, twitchy young man asked me: “How quickly can you retrain your mind?” I responded “much more quickly than he might imagine…a matter of days if not weeks.” After I assigned two daily exercises for him to do, … Continued
Is being open to being wrong the same as doubting that you’re right? The simple answer is no. Let’s contrast openness and doubt to see why they are different and what that means for you. Doubt Doubt is an emotion … Continued
The CEO of one of my clients said “I wonder whether my God is the God of the Old Testament or the God of the New Testament.” At the time I didn’t have an answer for him; I might have … Continued
We often hear the phrase “reaching their full potential.” Full potential is a myth that’s too easily bought into with the unfortunate result that we limit our potential to what we know or what we’re good at. Potential is unknown … Continued
I believe that we face a choice between change and the status quo more often than we realize. This lack of realization too often leads to subconscious choices made emotionally. I’m certain that you’ll agree that some of the poorest … Continued
If you want to develop long-term, mutually-beneficial relationships you must be candid, not brutal, in your communications. Before we get into a discussion of how to do that, let’s make sure we’re all working with the same definitions of candid … Continued
On the surface, pain or joy doesn’t seem to be a choice, but in the vast majority of instances it is. Of course we can’t prevent the physical pain that occurs when our bodies stop functioning in the way they … Continued
Over the years I’ve been asked on numerous occasions to do a program on conflict resolution. I refuse. It’s too late, conflict already exists. Instead, I offer a program on conflict prevention. In other words, I prefer getting ahead of … Continued
One of the unfortunate aspects of our humanity is our tendency to accentuate the negative. When an opportunity presents itself, our excitement is quickly replaced by doubt. We recall all the things that didn’t work out. Why? Because our memories … Continued
“That’s the thing about life. You actually have to spend time living it. Or else what the hell did any of it really matter?” This was spoken by Amos Decker, David Baldacci’s main character in his book, Long Shadows (opens … Continued