Are you in language limbo? Specifically, are you regularly using language that is NOT indicative of what you desire.
Limbo lacks commitment
“I hope, I’ll try, I might, maybe…but,” are all examples of limbo language. People using this language see potential, but aren’t yet willing to commit to a course of action. Often the use of limbo language indicates a combination of logical acceptance and emotional resistance which accounts for the person’s unwillingness to commit to something they know they should do.
It’s a very uncomfortable place to be. One in which we reside far too long because our natural human tendency is to perpetuate indecision, to foster both sides of the argument equally.
Most of us are familiar with the Yoda quote “Do or do not. There is no try.” Instinctively, we buy into that sage advice, but emotionally it’s more difficult to achieve…as young Luke Skywalker discovered. So how do we make it easier to employ Yoda’s advice.
First, become aware of the fact that you’re using limbo language. Shortly after you rise in the morning tell your subconscious mind to alert you whenever you use limbo language. As soon as you get an alert, change your language.
Don’t worry that it’s going to make your look foolish, people with whom you converse will see that you are growing personally and professionally. They’ll not only respect you for your efforts, they’ll be inspired by them. You’ll also be amazed at how much more confident you feel for having rid yourself of limbo language.
Second, notice how much more energized you feel every time you replace limbo language with commitment language. You feel in control of your destiny and are happy with the choice you’ve made…choices made consciously and free of emotion.
Third, when you notice others using limbo language let them know how changing using more positive language has enhanced your energy, your sense of control, your belief in your ability to deal with anything that comes your way. Encourage them to make the shift as well. Helping others make the mental shift away from limbo language helps you solidify that way of thinking for yourself.
Give yourself the gifts of energy, excitement, a sense of control and confidence in your ability to achieve whatever you like by ridding yourself of limbo language. Just follow the exit signs listed above.
For our kids
Live the message. Kids, like the rest of us, value actions over words. They’re more likely to avoid limbo language when they see you using more positive language. When your kids use limbo language, use the Yoda quote to help them see the futility of their language. Somehow kids tend to trust story characters over our adult input…so go with it.
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