Openness or Doubt?
Is being open to being wrong the same as doubting that you’re right? The simple answer is no. Let’s contrast openness and doubt to see why they are different and what that means for you. Doubt Doubt is an emotion … Continued
Which God?
The CEO of one of my clients said “I wonder whether my God is the God of the Old Testament or the God of the New Testament.” At the time I didn’t have an answer for him; I might have … Continued
Disappointing First Attempt
Don’t judge your performance based on your first attempt. Judging ourselves based upon the results of our first attempt is an unfortunate tendency we human beings have. It’s a tendency that does not serve us well. Background I was watching … Continued
Full Potential: A Myth?
We often hear the phrase “reaching their full potential.” Full potential is a myth that’s too easily bought into with the unfortunate result that we limit our potential to what we know or what we’re good at. Potential is unknown … Continued
Change vs Status Quo
I believe that we face a choice between change and the status quo more often than we realize. This lack of realization too often leads to subconscious choices made emotionally. I’m certain that you’ll agree that some of the poorest … Continued
Candid, Not Brutal
If you want to develop long-term, mutually-beneficial relationships you must be candid, not brutal, in your communications. Before we get into a discussion of how to do that, let’s make sure we’re all working with the same definitions of candid … Continued
Pain Or Joy: A Choice?
On the surface, pain or joy doesn’t seem to be a choice, but in the vast majority of instances it is. Of course we can’t prevent the physical pain that occurs when our bodies stop functioning in the way they … Continued
Conflict Resolution? Nah
Over the years I’ve been asked on numerous occasions to do a program on conflict resolution. I refuse. It’s too late, conflict already exists. Instead, I offer a program on conflict prevention. In other words, I prefer getting ahead of … Continued
Accentuate The Negative?
One of the unfortunate aspects of our humanity is our tendency to accentuate the negative. When an opportunity presents itself, our excitement is quickly replaced by doubt. We recall all the things that didn’t work out. Why? Because our memories … Continued
On Living Life
“That’s the thing about life. You actually have to spend time living it. Or else what the hell did any of it really matter?” This was spoken by Amos Decker, David Baldacci’s main character in his book, Long Shadows (opens … Continued